I’m a 31 year old female and I’ve been constantly exhausted my entire life. When I was a kid, I was chronically sleep deprived and had a terrible time falling asleep and waking up. It would take at least 2 hours or more just to fall asleep, and I would be so exhausted in the morning it would be impossible to get up. My childhood was very stressful so no doubt that contributed to the problem, but I think the problem is more than just stress. I’ve always felt like I was an excessive night owl, finding it very easy to stay up late into the night and being full of energy when it is dark, but quite difficult to get up in the morning, even if I got lots of sleep. On weekends, I could easily sleep up to 15 hours and still be groggy.
Since my 20s, it became easier to fall asleep faster, but it still takes longer than it should to be able to fall asleep, unless I am so tired that I’m practically passing out before I get to the bed. Currently, I seem to wake up naturally after an average of 7 – 8 hours of sleep, but I still feel completely exhausted and find it difficult to get up in the morning. I have avoided caffeine completely since I was a teenager, since discovering that it just makes me feel sick and does not help me feel more awake. I drink primarily water and eat a healthy diet for the most part. I get plenty of exercise and am in good shape. I work outdoors so I get plenty of sun exposure during the day. I’ve done lots of research on sleep problems, felt like I’ve tried everything, and can’t figure out why I’m so tired all the time. As tired as I’ve always been my whole life, it is so difficult to fall asleep, that I’ve never been able to take naps during the day since it takes too long to fall asleep.
I always thought I had insomnia and perhaps sleep apnea (my father has obstructive sleep apnea and uses a CPAP). My doctor gave me a prescription for Ambien (5mg) to try, but I hated how I reacted to it. It caused me to stay in bed for a full 24 hours, waking up and falling back asleep periodically after it was daytime, being far too sleepy to get up at all. I even tried half a pill, and it did the same thing, just to a lesser degree. I tried melatonin supplements, which just made me heavily groggy for a full day after taking it at bedtime the night before. Valerian root and "Herbal Slumber" (which contains Valerian root) so far have worked the best for me, causing me to fall asleep quickly and waking up feeling more alert after only 5 hours of sleep. However, I noticed that when I take it for several nights in a row, it quickly becomes less effective and causes me to have an even harder time falling asleep naturally when I stop taking it. So, I only use Valerian root in extreme cases and avoid it as much as possible. I’ve tried over the counter sleep aids, but those actually make me very jittery and unsettled, having the opposite effect that they should.
I’ve been interested in sleep studies and even used to work as a sleep tech, until the long hours (commonly had +16 hr shifts with long travel) and severe lack of sleep (ironically) burnt me out and I could no longer handle doing that job. I thought I might learn something about my own sleep problems if I studied other people, and having a night job would be ideal for me, but the job wore me out instead and I’m still just as puzzled.
I eventually had a sleep study done on myself a few years ago but was very dissatisfied. I had a harder than usual time falling asleep and staying asleep for the test, so I only got a total of about 3 hours of sleep time. The sleep doctor (who was supposedly known to be among the best in the field) spent all of 5 minutes with me telling me that I had all 4 sleep stages and there is nothing wrong with my sleep, so the problem is something else. A $1500 doctor’s bill later, and I’m back to square one.
I am at a complete loss as to what to do. I practice healthy habits, eat a healthy diet, exercise, have low blood pressure, avoid stimulants like caffeine, don’t smoke, don’t drink, don’t do drugs, and basically tried every sleep aid and trick I can think of but nothing has seemed to work effectively. Not once in my life have I ever woke up feeling refreshed, energized, and alert. I go to bed and get up at generally the same times every day. I wake up feeling exhausted, am tired all the time, have a difficult time getting out of bed no matter how much sleep I’ve had, and feel my daily functioning suffers as a result of just always being tired. I don’t have any problem falling asleep at inappropriate times, however. I am generally healthy otherwise, don’t have any known health issues, and the only drugs I take on a daily basis are a multivitamin and occasionally Allegra 180 if I’m having seasonal allergies.
I have no idea what the root of the problem is, and apparently neither do my doctors. Any ideas?